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Singing and Emotions...

Notes from a Holistic Singing Coach

Inspired by some recent one-to-one sessions with my private clients.

Don’t be afraid of your emotions when you sing - particularly when you start exploring your voice as an adult - with all the judgemental thinking we can bring to it!

Very often, for many different reasons, people, myself included, can become tearful and emotional during their singing lesson - and it’s usually a really good thing.

Some people feel grief for the lost years they felt prevented from singing, or being shamed about their voice. 
Others can feel frustrated by their level of skill versus the level they desire. 
As adults we are happiest doing what we know we are good at, and learning new skills can feel challenging to the ego and our self-esteem.
Most are simply overwhelmed by the stresses of daily life, seemingly unrelated to singing, which bubble up when they finally spend time focusing on themselves.  

But none of it is unrelated. Our voice is part of who we are and the life we live.

There is always a box of tissues in my studio!


We just take some time for their tears to fall freely and let the emotion overcome them naturally.

At first they apologise and may feel embarrassed at “breaking down” or “losing control”, but I encourage people to let themselves feel whatever they need to feel in the moment. 

When we practice breathing/relaxation in relation to our voice, we can find ourselves letting down our physical and emotional defences, and innocently releasing our feelings.


Allowing our process to unfold naturally has powerful relaxation and healing properties.
The throat and voice can act like an emotional filter. The place where we hold our feelings and allow only those we choose to present to be visible/audible.

This release can unlock tension in the throat, shoulders, jaw... freeing the voice. Tears bring healing endorphins and oxytocin to calm us and relieve stress.

Although our tears can come as something of a surprise, it is ultimately a beautiful and therapeutic experience and an act of self-care.

I am always grateful that my students feel safe enough to share their human vulnerability with me, as it deepens our trust, and improves our communication.

So don’t be alarmed or embarrassed by your natural emotions.  

Singing is an audible expression of the human experience. It’s safe.
Free your voice 💕🎶

For information about Heather's private Singing Lessons, "Singtherapy", Life coaching or Voice Club groups contact heather@vocalist.co.uk or the website happyvoice.co.uk
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